The use of something in a manner rather inappropriate, the cruel or violent treatment of someone or the use of rude and insulting words at someone is called an ABUSE.
If you experience any of these in your relationship often, be sure you are in an abusive relationship. A lot of people are in this category but are oblivious of it as they take it as a norm, a form of correction, a sign of love or discipline. Putting sentiments aside, this act is most common in Africa, worse off in our great nation and particularly, women are often at the receiving end.
The horrors of an abusive relationship do not only affect people psychologically but health-wise too. Let's not forget that your psychological being encompasses your relationship with others, the manner in which you think and the way you handle situations. All these go wrong when you are in an abusive relationship.. In other words, it brings about depression, aggression, low self-esteem and a wounded ego.
Everyone has a right and deserves to be happy. Happiness promotes mental, physical and emotional growth and development. It's really not easy breaking off from a relationship that you have put so much time and committment. Most times you hang in there hoping it will get better but it never does. It gets so bad when your partner is not aware of the damage and you refuse to speak to them about it because of the fear of losing them. The damage already gives you low self-esteem and you go about with the notion that you can't find anyone else who would love you better.
The reality of life is that there is someone out there who would love and cherish you for who you are, need you like never before and treat you right, but the sad fact is that not everyone gets to be with this 'someone'. So at all times you should strive to make happiness the number one benefit you intend to derive in your relationships.
You must also understand that it's your RIGHT to be HAPPY and your CHOICE to make it HAPPEN!